“Life does not always align with our well thought-out plans. As a mom, this drove me crazy and left me feeling out of control.” Read on as Barb Berglund, mother to four grown kids and grandma to one adorable little one, shares her perspective on finding strength as we parent.
The best advice I ever received on parenting (and really on anything) came from my oldest sister. She told me to get a good pair of jeans! I know what you’re thinking, because I was thinking the same thing. What!?!?
Don’t get me wrong. I like a new pair of jeans as much as the next person- dark wash, light wash, whatever. But what does that have to do with anything?
Let me back up a bit. I’m a planner. I LOVE a good schedule and organization. As I raised my four kids through each stage of childhood, it made me feel calm and in control. In parenting (and life) this can be both good and bad. Organization gave order to my busy life and helped me be productive. It brought a sense of calm to the fast pace of our days. I organized play dates, athletic events, school functions, meals, homework, family time, etc. However, I quickly came to realize that kids don’t always follow the schedules we set out for them. Life does not always align with our well thought-out plans. As a mom, this drove me crazy and left me feeling out of control.
During one of these many moments, my sister, who knew me better than she even realized, gave me her advice about the jeans. As any annoying baby sister would do, I asked “Why?” Her answer? “Because with your kids, the best thing you can do is be on your knees praying for them.” Humbled? Yup. I was never in control. God was and is in control, I just sometimes wouldn’t take the time to notice it. He loves our children even more than we do and He has our back. We can go to Him always about everything, knowing His plan is greater than ours!
What a relief, God has a plan. By no means have I finished this parenting journey- I’m on to the grandkids, the fun part! But at this point in my path, my suggestion for all parents is to go to Him with everything. Thank Him for your kids health, their accomplishments, their joy. Ask Him to provide for your needs and dreams. If you’re like me, sometimes “Help!” is all you can speak . If words fail me, I often speak the Lord’s Prayer or read Scripture aloud. He meets me there and gives me the strength to put one foot in front of the other. He loves us and our family and wants to hear from us.
So, I give you permission… go buy yourself a good pair of jeans!
Mother of 4
Gone through more jeans than I can count.
“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with ALL kinds of prayers and requests.” ~Ephesians 6:18a