I couldn’t BELIEVE the things my parents would NOT let me watch when I was a kid. In my mind, EVERYONE got to see all the best movies and they basically had run of the television in their homes. I remember how badly I wanted to watch some of the coolest action movies when I was a wee lad. Well, that was a no, and now I know why.
As Renee and I continue to try raising independent kids who can confidently think for themselves, I am careful to remember that there is a balance in doing this. We want our children to grow to be strong, wise, and ready to face what life has for them. We also do not want them exposed to dangers that may permanently or irreparably harm them. Continue reading Exposing our Kids to the Right Things: Everyone Else is Doing It!
It was my first year on the job as principal when these two eighth graders got into a fistfight. It may have even been my first month. I was so excited about beginning in my new position, that I hadn’t even considered there would be problems along the way. I’m far past that stage now to where I typically beware of slipping on a stray banana peel if some issue hasn’t popped up by 11a.m. each day.
I’ve discovered over the past several years that we don’t have many good old fights at our school. The few that we do have just involve pushing or name-calling, kind of like a skirmish in the NBA. But this day involved actual haymakers and it was clearly instigated by one of the two kids. To shorten the story, Student One turned a quiet recess snack time into a game of “let’s see what happens when I fire a ball at Student Two’s head?” Well, what happened was that Student Two quickly changed that game into “let’s fight” and the gentlemen were soon in my office. They were red-faced and looking as if they had both just run the mile at P.E. Continue reading Raising Responsible Kids: The Fistfight That Taught Me a Parenting Lesson
For a kid going to school in the morning, you’d think there would be a few necessities: clothes, lunchbox, backpack, shoes to name a few. But I realized a few months ago that my daughter may not have the same qualifications as me for a successful day of learning.
We all got in the car to leave and headed off. We weren’t late, but I had a meeting at school that day, so there wasn’t extra time to stop for coffee or anything like that. The drive was pretty normal and sports talk radio was on for all to enjoy or ignore. Then about 12 minutes into the ride, Reese informed me of this little tidbit: “Dad, I don’t have my shoes.” Have you ever really not known what to do as a parent and a million choices of what to do go through your mind at the same time? That was me at a stoplight while wondering how she did not notice that she was walking out to the car in bare feet. Continue reading Teaching Good Choice-Making: When I’m a Parent and I Don’t Know What I’m Doing
“Many of us prepare the road for our kids; what we should be doing is preparing our kids for the road.” This quote was courtesy of Ray Johnston, Pastor of Bayside Church in Roseville, CA.
There seems to be quite a tension for us parents when it comes to protecting our kids and letting them experience failure. The truth is that many of us hurt deeply when our children fall on their face, literally or figuratively. However, the other side of this coin is the simple fact that life will not be easy for our kids, just as it has not been easy for us. One day, we will not be there for them and they will need to be ready to succeed, fail and face challenges.
“Many of us prepare the road for our kids; what we should be doing is preparing our kids for the road.” ~Ray Johnston
Continue reading Teaching Independence: Preparing Our Kids For the Road