“Hey Dad, can you help me with something?” I didn’t realize when my 10-year old asked me this question last Saturday morning that the answer would take up the rest of the day and hurt both of us in different ways. I was folding laundry when she called me from the other room, because well… laundry. Anyhow, she came out and told me that she had a problem with her earring. Before looking at it, I thought, “Why would she ask me? Does she know that I formerly had not only an earring, but also dashingly stylish blonde highlights in my hair?” What else does this girl know about me? She said that something went wrong with the back of the earring when she was taking it out, so I turned her ear around to find that the earring back was literally INSIDE her ear lobe! My tummy turned, because I basically get light-headed at the sight of blood… or an earring stuck inside a lobe. I calmly told her that we would take care of this and that she would be fine. I internally said, “OH MY GAWSHHH!” Continue reading Being Available to Our Kids: Dad, Can You Help Me?
There was an empty seat at our Christmas dinner table that year. Grandpa passed away on August 17, 2008, leaving a huge vacuum in our tight-knit family. Grandpa was not just any “grandpa” to me. He was the Best Man in my wedding, my roommate for 14 years as I grew up, and my mentor & friend who taught me that there has never been a better golfer than Tiger Woods.
Eight of us sat around the Christmas tree, remembering that the year before it was nine of us. Mom and Dad had special gifts for us three pairs of “kids-and-spouses” to open at the same time. Mom was sure to mention that these must be opened last. We all held the gifts and curiously opened them together once all the other ones had been unwrapped. Then we froze as each of us, along with our loved ones, began to cry. Inside the beautiful wrapping was a quilt with a note that said in part, “This quilt, made of Grandpa’s shirts, pajamas, bathrobe and jeans, was made with our love and tears for all of you to treasure and remember. ~Mom & Dad”
I am looking at the quilt right now. It is like looking at different parts of Grandpa’s life. I can remember different experiences and memories with him in each square. The brown and yellow plaid shirt is the one that I left at his house one time. He liked it, so he adopted it as his own. The bathrobe reminds me of his last Father’s Day, sitting in Grandpa’s room watching Tiger dominate the U.S. Open with an injured leg and listening to Gramps joke and laugh with me, my dad and my son. The gray wool shirt is the one he would often wear to church to dress up. Grandpa loved God and everyone knew it. The jeans are tired and worn out. He mowed, painted, nailed and built. Grandpa was a hard worker all of his life.
Grandpa’s quilt represents a life well-lived by a Godly man. Each fabric is woven with years of experience and Godly wisdom that my family and I can model. When I grow old, I wonder what my quilt will look like. The decisions I make today is the yarn that knits those squares. If I am to pass on a meaningful legacy and heritage to my children, my choices happen now. I just pray that my quilt is as rich, full and inspiring as Grandpa’s.
“I wake up each morning and live my life to honor Jesus. I’m just thankful for each day.” ~Grammie
Renee’s Grammie is 92, going on 32. She is sparkly in every way: her smile, her fashion, her laugh, her personality. There is not a room she enters that doesn’t light up. She has spent her life making others feel better about themselves and spreading gratefulness in so many ways.
This was never more evident than last week when Grammie had an accident and broke her shoulder. This is a serious injury for anyone at any age, let alone someone 92 going on 32. Tests were done, arms were poked, and x-rays were taken. The result is that she simply needs to rehab the shoulder as much as possible while managing the intense pain that comes with that.
One of my favorite movie scenes is in “Hook,” the 1991 Peter Pan adaptation. Robin Williams plays a grown Peter who is now a stressed-out workaholic lawyer that has long since forgotten about the carefree fun of his childhood. This is until his lifetime nemesis, Captain Hook, kidnaps his children as he is forced to return to Neverland to rescue them. When he arrives there, he realizes that the only thing that has changed is him. His friends are still young and happy, and no one recognizes him, until a young boy curiously approaches him. It’s one of his old friends. Peter kneels down to the boy’s level and they look into each others eyes. There is silence as the boy takes Peter’s glasses off. He grabs his cheeks and squeezes the skin on his face, all the while staring at him. He intently examines his teeth and nose. Finally, a huge smile overtakes him and he exclaims, “Oh, there you are Peter!”Continue reading Seeing the Best in Our Kids: There you are Peter!