Exposing Our Kids to Great People: The Gift From Mrs. Keys

I didn’t think that a gift from Reese’s teacher would touch MY heart so much. Although, it wasn’t the gift itself, but the message that came with it. To start this sixth grade year, Mrs. Keys held a special ceremony in which she told her class the significance of her favorite book, the Bible. She shared about different Bibles she had owned in her life and the special people who had given them to her. She revealed times when passages in her Bible had guided her through dark, difficult, and painful places. She talked about when verses in God’s Word built her up and gave her inspiration to succeed.

Then she presented each of her students with their own leather bound Bible, complete with their name imprinted neatly on the front. Each student came to the front and she presented it to them, encouraging them to use it as a roadmap for life.

The kids all left school that day THRILLED about the gift and Reese came home with hers. She showed it to me and it was beautiful. I looked at it, opened the front cover and saw life. Life being given from Mrs. Keys to my daughter. She wrote to my daughter, “Reese, You are loved, redeemed and made for a great purpose. I cannot wait to see all the amazing things God will do in your life. Love, Mrs. Keys” STAWP. IT. NOW!

There is something so very special when someone you respect breathes inspiration and words of affirmation into your kids. It feels as if you’re pulling on this rope called parenting, which is heavy and hard to pull. Then another supportive hand grabs on with you, tells you to keep going, and starts to pull as well. Every single parent knows the way this goes… we speak to our kids and tell them all about how things should go, meanwhile wondering if they even hear us. But, sometimes it takes another respected voice to say the same exact thing in order to penetrate their heart and reach them deeply.

For this reason, we believe in our home that we MUST expose our kids to “high impact people and high impact events.” Looking back on my childhood, my parents provided a steady and loving home. They were wise in the things they told me and taught me. But, being the goof I was, I didn’t usually take much note. I mean, they were just my parents. So they put me in the path of Bret, Barb & Doug, and others who guided me in the same direction. Those were high impact people who simply supported what my family was doing at home. Without this, I would be a different person today.

As a parent, I’m grateful for the Mrs. Keys’, Mrs. Friesen’s, Apollo’s, Karlo’s, Kevin’s, and others who are in essential places in my children’s lives. I can’t give my kids everything they need as they grow, and even if I could, they wouldn’t listen to it all from me. The truth is that kids will talk to someone in their life at some point, and the last thing they need is to get consequential advice from a peer. With this in mind, we can give them places to go (besides us) when they need to confide, celebrate, or think.

Let’s release control and find some high impact people to help speak life into our kids. We can’t do it alone!

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Exposing our Kids to the Right Things: Everyone Else is Doing It!

I couldn’t BELIEVE the things my parents would NOT let me watch when I was a kid.  In my mind, EVERYONE got to see all the best movies and they basically had run of the television in their homes.  I remember how badly I wanted to watch some of the coolest action movies when I was a wee lad.  Well, that was a no, and now I know why.

As Renee and I continue to try raising independent kids who can confidently think for themselves, I am careful to remember that there is a balance in doing this.  We want our children to grow to be strong, wise, and ready to face what life has for them.  We also do not want them exposed to dangers that may permanently or irreparably harm them. Continue reading Exposing our Kids to the Right Things: Everyone Else is Doing It!

Confidence in Kids: You Can Buy the Milk This Time

“Make it a point to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable every single day.  You’ll be amazed by how empowered you’ll feel.  And naturally, if you pass this lesson along to your kids, you’ll help them become confident and empowered too!”  Read on as Natalie Charrette, 8th grade teacher and Vice Principal at Bay Christian School, shares how she taught her kids to overcome fear of the unknown.

Instilling confidence in our children, now grown, was always a parental priority for my husband and I.  We always made it a point to role-play different scenarios to teach our son and daughter how to speak clearly, look a person in the eye when talking and shake hands firmly.  We taught them to listen more and speak less.  We conversed often about stepping out of their comfort zones and when feeling in doubt, ask questions within a conversation.

When our son, Tyler was in junior high, we attended a neighborhood party, which he begrudgingly joined, although it wasn’t an option.  We gave him the mature task of conversing with an adult at some point during the evening, to which he just gave us the “yeah right” look.  Part way through the party, as my husband and I were mingling we noticed Tyler, surrounded by an unfamiliar family.  A mom, dad and kids were all talking and laughing with him.  My husband and I looked at each other inquisitively and wondered who this family was… or who our son was for that matter!  A little later, Tyler joined us in amazement at how well that question thing went.  “So, this dad asked me if I played sports.  The next thing I know we’re in a full conversation.  I just kept asking him questions, then his family started talking to me.  Before I knew it, we were all laughing together.”

Mission accomplished, our son learned a new skill that made him realize that speaking with adults and people you have never met is not as scary as it seems.

When our daughter Michaela was nine years old, I told her we were going to swing by the store to grab some milk.  She smiled and nodded in agreement until I parked the car in front of the store and handed her some money.  “Why are you giving me money?” she asked.  “So you can buy some milk,” I responded.  Next, it was a back-and-forth with her attempting to convince me that she just couldn’t do it.  I continued to coach and encourage her that she could.  After all, she had accompanied me on plenty of shopping trips.  “Just come with me,” she pleaded. “You’re a big girl, you got this!”  I insisted.  Finally, she hopped out and went off to buy a gallon of milk.

I will admit, I sat there anxiously.  “What if?” I kept asking myself as I peered into the grocery store windows, watching everyone enter and exit.  Although in reality she was only in there 8 minutes (I counted), it seemed like an eternity.

Sure enough, she bee-bopped out with a huge confident smile on her face and a gallon of milk in her hand.  “That was easy, the lady at the checkout was really nice” she grinned.  I just smiled and said, “Great job, you can keep the change.”

Another lesson learned.  The sooner we can accomplish the uncomfortable or scary things in life, the sooner we will discover our God-given talents and be able to use them for great purposes.  God’s plans for us are often much bigger than our own, pulling us away from our safe space.  However, the more willing and trusting we become, the wider the doors of opportunity will open for us.  These are lessons that can build confidence for both us and our kids!

Natalie Charrette is an always-laughing wife to Chris and proud mom to Tyler and Michaela.  She is also the 8th grade teacher and Vice Principal at Bay Christian School in Concord, CA.  In her spare time, she is the owner of Simple Steps Organization, where she finds joy in helping people organize their spaces and their lives!

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Natalie with her husband Chris and two kids, Tyler and Michaela (Michaela is drinking her coffee with milk).

 

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Teaching Good Choice-Making: When I’m a Parent and I Don’t Know What I’m Doing

For a kid going to school in the morning, you’d think there would be a few necessities: clothes, lunchbox, backpack, shoes to name a few.  But I realized a few months ago that my daughter may not have the same qualifications as me for a successful day of learning.

We all got in the car to leave and headed off.  We weren’t late, but I had a meeting at school that day, so there wasn’t extra time to stop for coffee or anything like that.  The drive was pretty normal and sports talk radio was on for all to enjoy or ignore.  Then about 12 minutes into the ride, Reese informed me of this little tidbit: “Dad, I don’t have my shoes.”  Have you ever really not known what to do as a parent and a million choices of what to do go through your mind at the same time?  That was me at a stoplight while wondering how she did not notice that she was walking out to the car in bare feet. Continue reading Teaching Good Choice-Making: When I’m a Parent and I Don’t Know What I’m Doing

Seeing the Best in Our Kids: There you are Peter!

One of my favorite movie scenes is in “Hook,” the 1991 Peter Pan adaptation.  Robin Williams plays a grown Peter who is now a stressed-out workaholic lawyer that has long since forgotten about the carefree fun of his childhood.  This is until his lifetime nemesis, Captain Hook, kidnaps his children as he is forced to return to Neverland to rescue them.  When he arrives there, he realizes that the only thing that has changed is him.  His friends are still young and happy, and no one recognizes him, until a young boy curiously approaches him.  It’s one of his old friends.  Peter kneels down to the boy’s level and they look into each others eyes.  There is silence as the boy takes Peter’s glasses off.  He grabs his cheeks and squeezes the skin on his face, all the while staring at him.  He intently examines his teeth and nose.  Finally, a huge smile overtakes him and he exclaims, “Oh, there you are Peter!”

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